a super gentle "recipe" for an anxious mind
recipes for self love #1: for the anxious hearts, overthinkers, and anyone who needs their brain to stop spinning.
recipes for self love #1: for the anxious hearts
some days i find myself trapped in a cycle of overthinking. and in my body there is this incessant feeling like I need to fix something, and I need to fix it now. have you ever noticed that even when you do “fix the thing” its pretty inevitable that this feeling will come back?
I grew up around a lot, a lot of chaos. uncertainty was embedded in to my daily routine, survival was a mechanism I learned incredibly young. there was so much peace, gentleness, and regulation that I missed out on instilling in myself at a young age. so a lot of my adulthood has felt like a journey of reparenting, a continuous reclaiming of everything that I did not receive.
and sometimes it can feel incredibly hard. I have made it through a number of seasons— seeing the other side of a chronic panic disorder, finding love again after heartbreak, watching everything work out exactly the way it should, every single time.
I have a whole lot of proof that I am safe, and a track record that states that everything always works out, every single time.
but some days I get lost, some days the feelings of anxiety, unrest, needing to fix something, come back. sometimes the mechanism of survival mode gets re-booted. so I wanted to share with you my favorite self love practice for bringing yourself back to homeostasis, and resetting your nervous system during moments of anxiety.
welcome to Recipes for Self Love, a new occasional mini-series inside our paid space. these little recipes will arrive as surprise additions between our monthly practices, journal deep dives, and mid month returns. they’re meant to be small, digestible practices for the very real moments when you need a little extra support. paid subscribers can drop your requests for future recipes here!:
our first recipe contains five incredibly gentle ingredients. pull it out whenever the anxious thoughts begin, you start to feel restless, and when your nervous system needs a reset. you can make the full version when you have an hour, or even create a tiny batch using whatever time and energy you have available!
its tried and true, and its here for you. (wink)
P.S. When you become a paid reader, here is what lands in your inbox each month:
You’ll receive three private letters and practices every month, each supporting a different part of building a loving and trustworthy relationship with yourself:
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📓 The Monthly Guided Journal Deep Dive: A thoughtful collection of intentional journal prompts to help you explore one part of your inner life, uncover what is beneath the surface, and understand yourself more deeply.
🕯 The Mid-Month Return: A gentle letter from me in the middle of each month, helping you reconnect with yourself, return to the month’s practice, and begin again without shame or pressure.
Plus seasonal Self-Love Care Packages, Recipes for Self Love, occasional surprise letters, and immediate access to the complete Lessons in Self Love library.
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