confidence practices for when your self worth feels low

a list of self love rituals to try to boost your confidence

you haven’t been being kind to yourself. it isn’t feeling fun to get dressed, your mindset feels glass half empty, your optimism feels hard to connect to. your self worth feels low, and its impacting your confidence and your self love. you know there is some type of act of love you need to give yourself but you’re not sure where to begin.

here is a comprehensive guide to traveling inward to turn your confidence back on. choosing to slow down and go within is a radical act of self love. we’ve been talking a lot lately (in my newsletter) about the secret to having true confidence is that it is born out of a devotion to being kinder to ourselves. i have been offering maps to understand why we end up here, how to have compassion for ourselves, and ways to begin towards a shift of going inward first to heal. i wanted to write you a list of ideas to use when you’re feeling off, low in your self worth, anxious, not your best, not confident, or just point blank weird. come back to this whenever you need some ideas.

i love you so much and i am so, so, so glad you’re here.

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✩ Confidence Practices ✩

❥ experimentation over perfection

when our self worth feels low, we often find ourselves stuck in a place of shame. we become so focused on what we aren’t doing right, where we aren’t performing well enough, where we need to become better. there are many ways to work through this shame, but I want to invite you to try something radical, and super fun: experiment with something totally fresh.

• this doesn’t have to be big or grand, I just want you to think of something you don’t usually do. maybe it’s singing, or curling your hair, or watercoloring, or doing a hike. maybe there is something you’ve always wanted to try, but never let yourself. whatever sparks a mini light within you when you’re thinking of this, thats the one!

❥ no negative self talk day

I recently wrote an entire article on how important it is to take the reins back over our mind when it gets stuck in negative loops (you can read it here: if you don't control your day it will control you) when confidence is low, the voice of self hate and low self worth turns its volume up. it’s almost like it takes over, seeking to confirm the feeling you’re having. let’s switch it.

• for one whole day, decide to engage in no negative talk. this doesn’t mean you can’t allow the thoughts to come (we have no control over that) it simply means you are invited to become aware of the negative thoughts. and as they come, I want you to pick a new thought. something that is self loving and affirming. just like that, all throughout the day. you’ll see!

❥ romanticize the mundane

life gets so much more enjoyable when you begin to add whimsy and romanticization to the little, mundane aspects of your day. when sitting down to do your homework, put on a 2000s playlist, crack open your windows and light a yummy candle. when you’re driving to work, roll down your windows put your hands out and scream-sing one of your favorite hits. romanticizing your day is all about being willing to make something a vibe.

❥create a “confidence mantra” for yourself and repeat it daily.

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my favorite affirmation tip is to pick something you want to believe, but might not fully believe yet. pick it, and commit to repeating it to yourself daily. the more you do this, the more you will become aware of how it actually changes the way you feel in your body, moods, and mind. our words are so powerful, and speaking life over ourselves goes a very long way.

• here are some ideas: “my confidence comes from within, and it radiates all around me” “my self love is growing all of the time” “I am whole, I am enough, I am worthy, I am loved”

❥main character morning routine

start your day on the right foot. start it with excitement, joy, whimsy, and belief in yourself. by pouring energy into the first part of your day, you set the tone for everything else. what if you began your day with confidence, love, and believing that you are enough?

• try journaling about the things you love about yourself, affirming that you are going to have an incredible day!

❥dress up in a way that feels FUN

you can be anything you want to be, you just have to choose to be that.

confidence has such a canvas when it comes to the ways we dress ourselves or do our hair or makeup ect. you don’t have to pick something outlandish or bold for this practice to make an impact. just pick something that excites you, maybe its a little more color than usual, or shoes you have always wanted to wear, or more sparkle on your eyeshadow. just simply go for it, and walk out into the world with a new level of excitement.

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if you want to dive deeper into building your self confidence and healing your low self worth through self love, these 2 pieces offer a deeper foundation and journey:

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