July Self Love Practice: Coming Home to Yourself
July's monthly Lessons in Self Love letter for paid subscribers
July Self Love Practice: Coming Home to Yourself
Inside Lessons in Self Love, we’re beginning a new rhythm together.
A Monthly Self Love Practice.
Each month, we’ll move through one guiding theme designed to help you not just understand yourself more deeply — but actually practice that understanding in your real life.
You will now receive a monthly letter from me with the theme for the month, and the guided practice to come back to yourself through reflection, ritual, journaling, and gentle integration.
Each month inside this practice, you’ll be gently guided through:
🌙 A written lesson to help you understand the theme and your patterns more deeply
🌿 Guided reflection prompts to explore your inner world with honesty and care
✨ A self love practice to help you embody what you’re learning in real life
🌙 A monthly self love date to deepen your relationship with yourself
🤍 A grounding integration ritual to return to yourself and regulate your nervous system
💌 Theme based affirmations to support your evolving sense of self
I want to give you a beautiful framework you can rely on receiving each month, knowing that you are unfolding the process of becoming your own best friend in a tangible and real way .
And this month, we begin here:
Coming home to yourself.
✩ How to Move Through This Month’s Practice
This practice is yours to move through slowly throughout the month.
You do not have to finish it all in one sitting. You do not have to have perfect answers. You do not have to turn this into another thing to accomplish.
Think of this as something you can return to again and again throughout July.
You might begin by reading the lesson all the way through, then choose one or two journal prompts to sit with each week. You can use the 60-Second Return as your daily anchor, and save the self love date for a day this month when you can intentionally spend time with yourself.
Here is a gentle way to move through it:
Week 1: read the lesson and notice where you’ve been feeling close to or far away from yourself
Week 2: choose a few journal prompts and explore them slowly
Week 3: practice the 60-Second Return once or twice a day
Week 4: take yourself on your monthly self love date and reflect on what this theme brought up for you
But truly, there is no wrong way to be here.
This is not about performing self love perfectly.
This is about returning to yourself gently.
✩ The Theme: Coming Home to Yourself
hi my loves, welcome to July’s self love practice! I thought it would be fitting to talk about a theme as relatable and foundational as coming home to yourself.
when I first began practicing self love and learning how to become my own bestfriend, I was incredibly far away from myself. I was always searching for validation from other people and I was looking for relief & comfort in places outside of me. I spent a lot of my time focused on pleasing other people, and not having to feel. one of the very first things I had to do in my journey, was become willing to come back home to myself. and that included coming home to a place that was quite messy and in disarray. there was a lot of cleaning up to do, a lot of reorganizing, and a lot of trash to throw away.
but that’s okay. because the most important part, was noticing that I hadn’t come home in a long while, and I was ready to finally come back. soon, id be beautifying the space, and then eventually id be obsessed with spending time within.
here’s what “leaving yourself” actually means:
it’s not always obvious.
it looks like:
overriding what you feel to keep the peace
abandoning your needs to meet expectations
distracting yourself when something uncomfortable comes up
choosing what’s easiest instead of what’s honest
most of us don’t notice it happening in real time. but over time, it creates distance and puts a strain on our relationship with ourself.
why we do this:
we don’t leave ourselves because something is wrong with us. we leave ourselves because, at some point, it felt safer or easier than staying present.
we learn to adapt.
we learn to cope.
we learn to move quickly past ourselves.
and those patterns were once survival mechanisms.
but now, they slowly take us out of relationship with ourselves. and self love is becoming excited and willing to come back home to ourself.
what “coming home” actually means:
coming home to yourself is about rebuilding trust with the person you already are.
it looks like:
noticing when you disconnect
pausing instead of abandoning yourself automatically
learning how to return within, even in small moments
staying with what you feel without rushing past it
this is not a one-time realization.
it’s a practice.
a slow return.
✩ The Journal Prompts
I want these journal prompts to feel incredibly inviting, gentle, and eye-opening.
you have these for the whole month, so enjoy taking your time with these at your own pace. maybe you even sit with a couple per week. do not worry about a perfect response, this is a private practice between you and you. so let your words flow, be honest, and let it all out.
