Lessons in Self Love | The Emotional Literacy Series: understanding anxiety

a multi-part guided journey into emotional intelligence & self understanding

Lessons in Self Love | The Emotional Literacy Series (Part I)

Anxiety: The Protector That Learned to Fear Everything

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Welcome Back to The Emotional Literacy Series

In Part 0, we opened this series with talking about learning how to tune in to our emotions. We explored the idea that emotions are not problems to solve, but messages to understand. We practiced slowing down, listening inward, and creating space for what we feel instead of immediately trying to escape it.

Over the next few months, we’ll be exploring the emotions we often struggle to understand—anxiety, fear, shame, anger, grief, loneliness, and more.

Each lesson in this series focuses on a specific emotion and explores:

✦ what that emotion is trying to protect you from

✦ the need hidden beneath it

✦ the wisdom it carries

✦ how to respond with compassion instead of criticism

We’ll be sitting with anxiety, fear, shame, anger, grief, loneliness, and more.

This week we’re beginning with anxiety.

And next time, we’ll explore fear—the emotion that often lives beneath anxiety itself.

We’ll look at why fear appears, what it protects, how it differs from anxiety, and how to build trust in yourself when life feels uncertain.

I can’t wait to continue this journey with you.

Part 0 — How to Tune In to Your Emotions

Part I — Anxiety: What if something goes wrong? (6/16)

Part II — Fear: I don’t know if I’m safe. (6/30)

Part III — Shame: Something is wrong with me. (7/7)

Part IV — Anger: A boundary has been crossed. (7/21)

Today, we begin our first emotional deep dive.

We’re starting with anxiety. Not because anxiety is the most important emotion. But because for so many of us, it’s the loudest. It’s the voice that keeps us awake at night replaying conversations. It’s the feeling in your chest when you haven’t heard back from someone. It’s the endless list of what-ifs. It’s the need to know. The need to prepare. The need to control.

And if you’ve struggled with anxiety, I want you to know something before we begin:

Anxiety is not evidence that you are broken.

Anxiety is evidence that a part of you is trying very hard to keep you safe.

Today, we’re going to sit down with anxiety instead of running from it.

We’re going to listen.

And we’re going to discover the loving message hidden beneath the fear.

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A letter from anxiety

Dear love,

I know you’re tired of me.

I know you wish I would stop interrupting your peace with endless possibilities and worst-case scenarios.

I know you’re exhausted from carrying me.

But I need you to understand something.

I never arrived to hurt you.

I arrived because somewhere along the way, I learned that being prepared was the same thing as being safe.

I learned that if I could anticipate every outcome, maybe I could protect you from pain.

Maybe I could stop the rejection before it happened.

Maybe I could prevent the disappointment.

Maybe I could keep you from being caught off guard.

I know I can be overwhelming.

I know I can make it difficult to trust life.

But beneath all my noise is something very simple:

I am afraid of losing what matters.

I am afraid of seeing you hurt.

I am trying to protect you.

And maybe my methods aren’t perfect.

But my intention has always been love.

Love,
Anxiety

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What anxiety really is:

Most people think anxiety is overthinking.

But overthinking is simply one expression of anxiety.

At its core, anxiety is your mind attempting to predict the future in order to protect you from pain. It is a protective strategy.