questions you need to be asking yourself (a journaling guide)
journaling is a sacred process that has saved my life more times than i can count. it has helped me connect with myself, it has shown me my blind spots, it has prompted healing that was otherwise halted, it has helped me become who i am today.
i was once incredibly disconnected from myself. i was hell-bent on self destruction, and escapism was my north star. how far can i get away from these feelings that lay deep within me? if i run faster will they still follow? if i get higher will they still reach me? can i disown my own self? she feels too much. and i cannot take it, i cannot bear it. instead i will outrun it.
how do you connect to a self that you have been estranged from? that you may have even abandoned? a self that feels like a stranger?
patience. soft, loving, patience.
but i will tell you this: i met myself because of journaling. and i eventually became my own best friend, because of journaling. no, like seriously, we are best friends. i know myself the way a mother knows her own. i am my own. and it is an honor to be connected to myself.
i’d like to offer you an invitation, a handful of journal prompts you can use to deepen your connection with yourself. wherever you are at in the journey of self love, these questions will meet you there.
journal at first to release, not to create, not to perform. through the honest outpouring of everything that hasn’t been said, creation and alchemy will occur. its a bit magical, you will see.
happy journaling!
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Journal Prompts to get to Know Yourself Deeper:
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before we begin, and before you use these: take a moment with yourself. close your eyes, take a few deep breaths. decide to allow yourself free reign. there is no right answer, there is no wrong way. simply write. let’s meet ourselves with all of the armor off. let’s meet ourselves in a flow state.
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How are you, really? No like, really.
What are the thoughts that keep circling in your head lately? Let them out here.
What has brought you the most joy lately? Can we create more of it?
When is the last time you felt truly free to be yourself?
Who makes you feel alive?
Tell me your biggest dream. Yes, bigger.
What did your inner child need but not receive? How can you offer that to yourself?
What are you most proud of yourself for?
Reflect on a past version of you who got you where you are today. Thank them.
What do you need the most right now? It’s safe for you to voice it.
If you truly loved yourself, what would that look like?
What are you afraid of? What is the desire underneath the fear?
What makes you angry? What boundary of yours does it cross?
What are you ready to let go of?
What are you ready to invite in?
What makes you feel truly loved?
Tell me about a time you felt lost, but it brought you where you are now.
Are you the butterfly, the caterpillar, or in the coccoon right now?
What is one way you can nurture your mind, body, and spirit?
Pick an inspirational word for the rest of the year. What does it mean to you?
Write a list of things you love about yourself. (trust me, do it.)
What would make you feel more connected to yourself?
may these questions spark conversation between you and you. may it inspire a deeper connection and a sense of homecoming. i know it may feel uncomfortable to put a mirror up to the truest you, but i promise it is the most worthwhile thing you will ever do. i am so proud of you, and honored to be present at any point along your journey.
from my heart to yours,
Rhiana Meri
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Ah Rhiana! This is so beautiful, I’m excited to start working through these prompts. Thank you for sharing 🤍
This line hit me, so short and simple but its impact is profound. I feel the same, thanks to journaling.
“i am my own.”
magic. ✨
What if most of your initial reactions are, I don't know? What if you think about it and still get I really don't fucking know?